Marriage, as in any relationship, takes time and effort to build, carry, and nurture. It often goes with ups and downs, but life continues no matter the outcome.
Even in the early stages to very far in the future your marriage will be tested by both external and internal threats constantly. Your relationship with your spouse along with your trust and self worth have a big play here.
Studies show that having high self-esteem might have been a good sign of your marriage prospects.
It also explains that the higher your self esteem is, the higher the chances that you and your partner will have a great marriage. It really tells you a deeper story than choosing the right partner. by analyzing your self worth you can also explain your overall relationship with your spouse.
The effects from self your esteem and self worth on your marriage can be sensed in the short run and long run. Positively turned if your self worth is high, and negatively if your self worth is low.
It may go up and down but giving mutual support and encouragement can make that marriage ship float and go faster and stronger even against the wind.
In essence, it can really save your marriage or literally destroy them. Bear in mind that not only your self worth is at play here. Your partners self worth also plays a major role.
It is a silver line when you want to analyze self worth and marriage relationships. Not only because of fluctuations but also because it involves 2 people.
No matter the results of it, if you and your spouse have high self value and a sense of worth, your relationship will flourish.
To read more about self care and self esteem in marriage, I have recently posted another text about it. You can read it here.
How does Self Worth have an Effect on Just You in Marriage?
Swinging in self worth is not anything new nor uncommon. While you are bombarded every day with new experiences, influences, news, etc. some of that might elevate your self worth and some can bring it down a bit.
In that sense, you are bringing your self worth into your marriage. Think about it like this. When you had a bad day at work it only takes one question, one sound, or one twitch to set you off in bad sense. You can get into an argument, and you can become mad at your spouse for no particular reason from their perspective, but from yours, it was just a last drop in that day.
If you are having low self worth you can become more anxious, and more insecure with constant mood swings. You will be more sensitive in communication both verbal and nonverbal.
There will be constant pressure on your shoulders for feeling guilt and pain for whatever reason that you might think it is too big for you. In simple terms, your mind will be preoccupied with negativity and constant dread.
With that in mind, it can be very difficult for your spouse to be married to you. Nevertheless, support, encouragement and love is all that is needed to bring you up, and vice versa. Always speak with a professional if you need any assistance or help. Marriage counseling isn’t that uncommon.
When you have high self worth and self esteem you are enjoying your marriage more. If you are more self worth conscious you probably have come to more relaxed days with little to no effort. The day begins with a smile and finishes with an even bigger smile.
Having high self worth means a lot to your spouse too. You will be more supportive, and more active in your marriage, and your spouse will feed out of your vibes too.
Overall marriage is what you make of it. If you have a supportive and loving partner no matter how you are down things will pick up eventually. Also if you are a person with high self worth and your spouse is not, having a supporting and loving role is one of the pillars of a successful marriage in the long run.
How Low Self Esteem can Ruin your Marriage?
This is really touchy subject and every couple has their own reason to end up marriage. However, when it comes to low self esteem and its effects on marriage there are some common traits that you can trace it and replace it.
Jealousy, possessiveness, abusive behavior, frequent alcohol consumption, insecurity, emotional distance, and overall cold relationship. Overthinking and reassurance that everything is fine, and overall providing constant difficulties to your spouse with your behavior.
Every single trait when giving it long-term durability and boosting from the low self esteem side can definitely have a big impact on your marriage.
Also when these traits go indefinitely it really creates a dysfunctional relationship. When marriage becomes dysfunctional it has a pathway to end inevitably.
This situation can really put you in a place where you don’t see any brightness ahead, and that is very bad position.
The same study, also shows what is the biggest attack on self worth and esteem from your partner’s side.
In men, it is the infidelity of a spouse, and for women, it is insult and criticism of physical attractiveness.
One of the best ways not to be in this type of situation is to crystallize your relationship by communicating. Communication plays a major role both in the short and long term in any relationship.
If there is a will from both sides the marriage could work. It is something that you simply need to work on and put effort.
How to Overcome Low Self Esteem in Marriage?
Seek help and support – Whatever from your spouse or from a professional any help will do. If you feel stuck or that you need an additional boost in overcoming your barriers seek and ask for support. The greatest gift is that you have someone who you can rely on.
If anything isn’t going well always ask for professional assistance because you deserve it. You are here on earth not to suffer but to be rich within and to enrich and empower others as well.
Be open about it – There is no shame in speaking openly that you are suffering and that you need help. The first thing to realize is that you have a problem that needs to be addressed. Whenever you have a chance to speak with a person who you can trust, or with a professional just be open about what is bugging you.
Not only you will be relieved that you share your fears and anxiety, but the feeling of relaxation will be poured within you. Nobody should keep everything inside, or feel isolated. Do something about it.
Work together – Support from your spouse can be a game changer if you ever feel down or that is your default condition. With a supportive spouse, no obstacle can get in between you. Everyone can be great when there is no turmoil, however, true colors are revealed in the time of need.
No matter who is having low self esteem at the moment, the other partner should provide assistance, support, and love. In the end, this will only strengthen your marriage since you overcome a great obstacle.
Set boundaries – One of the most common but ignored facts is that you need your own space and boundaries set. It is not easy to see them but what can be your beacon is your gut feeling. Your feelings are real and you shouldn’t ignore them. Act on them as soon as they pop out. Make boundaries as clear as they can be.
Boundaries when set in a healthy and correct manner can save you and your spouse. Try to communicate as openly and as much as possible with your partner about it.
See the good standing – It is easy to dive deep into negativity. It is pile after pile of negativity where you can easily be devoured if you just think about it. Not everything is grim and dark.
Always check what are you good at. No matter how small that excellence is, it is yours only. Tap yourself on the shoulder it wouldn’t hurt. Give yourself the remembering that you need of what you really good at.
If you want to surprise your partner by giving them some self care gift, I have written an article about it. You can read it here.
Thanks for reading, have a nice day and take care.
